March 04, 2008

How to Choose a Psychic

So, you've decided that you want to check out this "psychic reading" thing. Or maybe, you have been to a psychic before and would like to try it again.

How do you pick one? No one likes to get scammed. You are paying your hard earned money to get some insights, you don't need someone to tell you that your stars are not aligned, or that you are looking for something or trying to figure out your life. Aren't we all?



If you weren't looking for something or trying to get insight or a different view into something, you wouldn't be looking for a psychic in the first place.

One of the first things you need to do is to take a look at a couple of websites. Don't be fooled by good marketing - some true psychics have expensive sites, some are maintained by the psychic themselves. What the psychic has to say makes a difference. Psychics are as varied as the rest of the population, each having their own special talents and their own way of communicating. Some psychics were born psychic, some became aware of their gift after a life altering event, and some have worked hard for a very long time to hone their ability to connect with Spirit.

Some use tools like tarot cards, runes or tea leaves. Others simply sit quietly and channel information from Spirit. How they do the reading does not matter, that you get something out of it does.

Any psychic that is any good is doing a reading for you because they truly want to help you with your path. Most genuine psychics are not getting rich from doing psychic readings. Some do better financially than others, but often it has more to do with their other endeavors, not just the readings themselves.

Everyone has their own intuition and gut feelings about things. It is important when choosing a psychic that you use yours. If you happen along a website and just feel a connection with someone then that person is definitely worth looking in to.

There are many good psychics out there, why not talk to one where you feel a connection?

Another thing to look at are testimonials. Yes, I suppose testimonials could be made up, but why would a good psychic do that? There would be no need. Testimonials, along with all the other things mentioned in this article can be a good indication of what you might get out of your reading.

Look for signals throughout their website. Words and phrases like 'empower', 'non-judgmental', 'help you make your own informed decisions' (rather than 'I will tell you what to do'), help you work through your journey (or path), are all signs of a true psychic. One who wants to help you, not help themselves to your money. If on their site they claim to be able to make other people behave in a certain way you would probably be better off to move on to someone else. Just as you have free will, so do your loved ones.

When looking for a psychic, be realistic, there are scam artists out there too (just as there are bad contractors, lawyers, mechanics and accountants, there are bad psychics). If, on your quest to find a good psychic, you come across any of the following, please move on and find someone else to be your guide.

  • Anyone that tells you that they can solve all your problems is flat out lying. They are praying on people who are desperate and have a problem (or problems) that feel too overwhelming to deal with on their own. No one can solve all your problems for you.
  • Anyone who adds charges over and above what you have agreed in advance to pay. I am not talking here about someone who has told you ahead of time that there is a charge to have a CD mailed to you, nor am I talking about someone who says there will be an additional charge for additional time or services. I am referring to a so called "psychic" who says "I just prayed for you, you owe me money".
  • Anyone who mentions curses, or anything else out of your control. There are no such thing as curses. There are people out there who would like you to believe there are curses that can be removed for huge amounts of money, but it is just the money that they will be focusing on -- how they can get it from you. Once they get some out of you, they feel they have you hooked and they will continue to tell you you are cursed and they will continue to take your money as long as you give it.
  • Ditto with lighting candles or praying for you. Its fine if a psychic says they are willing to do this for you -- so long as they do not charge you for it.
  • If they tell you that you need readings on a regular basis in order to achieve your goals. Now, if you make the decision that you need more guidance that is fine. But a psychic should not tell you that you must ask them before you make your own decisions. You need to live your own life. Asking for help is okay, but a good psychic does not want their clients to become dependent on them for every decision that comes along.
  • Watch out for psychics who tell you that they "know", beyond all doubt, what your future holds. You do have some control over your own future. Our futures are based on our actions. If a psychic sees something in your future, positive or negative, you have control over whether or not you allow it to happen.
  • The biggest thing to keep in mind when looking for and then consulting a psychic is that you still need to live your own life and make your own decisions. Psychics are "guides", they are not your decision makers.

    If you have a decision to make, yes, a psychic can tell you what the possible outcome of the decision may be. They cannot tell you what decision you will make -- that's up to you.

    True psychics want to help you on your path, want to make your life easier, give you some insights, help you feel better about whatever it is you are going through. Sometimes to give a bit more meaning to what it is you are experiencing. Psychics generally do not want to scare you. They aren't going to tell you that you will be cursed forever if you don't do what they say. That's not why God gave them the gift.

    If you remember nothing else, remember this: A good psychic does not want to control you or your life, they want to help you to have control over your own life, and to realize your own potential.

    By Tamara Hawk

    I am a psychic living in British Columbia, Canada. I have been psychic since birth and have been doing psychic readings for others for the past 25 years. With these psychic readings I help people to enhance their own personal growth and assist them to realize their life path. I am also a medium and often when I do readings I have contact from the other side, whether from a loved one who has passed over or Spirit teachers and guides. Visit http://www.tamarahawk.com, for more information on psychic readings. Or contact Tamara at tamaraha@telus.net


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